Fran, I'm so sorry that my story resonated with you, only because I know that means you have had some really tough times. Even 45 years ago leaves an open wound that often hurts! I am glad you said you have no shame, as neither do I, but I still realize the "esteem" that many of my family members hold me in, which is LOW! I have accomplished so MUCH in life on my own, without their support, it kills me that in their squalor they look at me, as you said, as "less than!". Glad to meet you, Fran, and say hello anytime! If we have similar stories we can always "commiserate" , my friend! Jim