I became an adoptive father of three in my first marriage, hetero. However, my three children were raised mostly after my divorce. My husband, 2nd gay marriage, was an excellent coparent. Our two daughters have been resilient, but my son has struggled since high school, and is now on the street at 35, having been in rehab several times. Parenting, either bio or through adoption, is a struggle. I blame myself for much, although I know I'm not at fault for most. I'm glad your relationship has been restored with your son. I hope mine will be restored before my "time" is OUT.