This sentence defines your story for me. And also describes how I felt about coming out at age 38 when already married with three small children. That wasn't easy. I reel at knowing how this difficult decision will play out in your life. But your story seems very grounded and you seem quite content with yourself inside. I applaud that! And, it seems you have an understanding wife who loves you. That is GOLD! I predict you will weather this well. I'm so glad I found your work!